Being Disaffected

Dear Seekers,

My community and I have been reflecting on what gets in the way of us having the deepest connections. Many helpers, healers, caregivers, those typically named "resilient" or "strong," are the ones with histories of having to be ok when they weren't. As a result, we've become practiced in downplaying our pain to others and telling watered down versions of the truth to uphold an identity of put-togetherness. I've learned that these strategies are excellent hiding places, and as a result actually discourage genuine closeness. Consider the power dynamic being asserted if I am always the one that has things figured out, while encouraging everyone else to fall apart. Those who ask others to trust them, must first be aware of how they are showing up in order to elicit that trust.