Perfectionism

Dear Seekers,

I’ve been pondering what perfectionism is at its core, and how it relates to trauma. Perfectionism is defined as one’s “need for personal flawlessness that is accompanied by self-criticism imposed by unrealistic standards.” In addition to a desire to “get it right,” I understand perfectionism as a protective response to feelings associated with trauma, including shame. The clever brain tricks us into believing that “If I get it “just right,” I won’t be rejected or judged.” While this response may help shield us from experiencing pain, it also prevents us from connecting with and expressing our humanness. The consequence of perfectionism is massive–it robs us of our joy and ability to be present in our lives.