The Nice Ones

Dear Seekers,

At Spoke, we are committed to supporting people in interrogating their politeness. There is the type of kindness that comes from an authentic place and there is the kind that covers up authentic emotions, beliefs and identities. Many of us trade in what looks glossy for what feels shitty: being liked over having self-respect. We do this for very good reason--being nice and digestible kept us safe, accepted, and may have secured our relationships. It also triggered an internal battle between who we are and who we think we should be. If you feel un-centered, resentful and notice misalignment between what you're thinking, feeling and doing, this may be an opportunity to examine the ways you learned to abandon yourself (it's not your fault--you were taught to and capitalism, white supremacy and the patriarchy depend on it!).