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Dear Seekers,

One of the gems that was uncovered from our Seven Deadly Sins: Sloth experience this weekend, is that many of us want more ease but we are afraid of the losses that might occur if we stop doing (serving, people-pleasing, affiliating, working) in order to create more space for it.

Growing up, many of us learned that meeting other peoples' needs secured relationship to them. We came to believe that to receive love means we have to work extra hard. If you had an angry parent who was less mad if the house was clean, you cleaned the house. If your father didn't ask about your emotions, you may have asked about his to feel closer. If your teacher was kinder to more pleasing children, you learned how to smile when you wanted to scream. 

You grew up believing that your value was equal to your output; how much you gave determined your worth. It can be difficult to give yourself rest if you believe that it threatens your connections--
so you tuned out of you, to tune into them.

We give away the things we need--you ask your friend how she's doing when you want to know if she cares how you're doing, you bake the most beautiful cake for your partner's birthday hoping that he will prioritize yours, you decline an invite to something you want to go to because your child wants you. 

What would happen if you nourished yourself with rest instead of nourishing others? What would it be like if you tolerated the anxiety of being "lazy"--a judgment that comes from a capitalist culture that attempts to motivate through shame--long enough to see what's underneath the anxiety? What if you gave other people the chance to love you, not for what you do, but for who you are? 

We've got more sinning coming your way to help you find out. Stay tuned for: Wrath and Lust...