De-selfing and Other Survival Strategies

Dear Seekers,

For many of us, the holidays are synonymous with family. At Spoke, we've been investigating what gets activated inside us as we prepare to spend time with our families of origin. At this time of year, the pull to still participate in a family system that does not serve us is strong. (Read on for an Improv Workshop offering for some post-holiday exhale!)

As humans, we seek relationships that are familiar, hoping that if we continue to show up we will eventually get what we need. Even if it doesn't feel good, it is an arrangement that we know. In order to continue to play the role we've always played (listener, giver, supporter) we take ourselves OUT of the relationship (our feelings, needs, beliefs, preferences, identities) to remain IN the relationship.